How to deal with Worry and Anxiety
“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.” Leo F. Buscaglia
Recently, I have come to discover that I worry about things that I have no control over, and all my series of worry has earned me nothing order than a depressed and clogged mind. Worry has always been noted to be that mental disease most people nurture, some people are oblivion that they actually suffer from this mental infirmity. However, almost all human beings have a season of worry, although in varying degrees. Worry is a leech that we, much time don’t know of, but drains us of the strength we need to face the challenges of life. This mental Virus cripples us mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even mentally. The truth remains that worry blurs your creative vision, it makes you see the problem, but never the solution to the problem.
We sometimes have a lot on our mind, we ponder on the aspects of our lives that either give us pleasure or bring back past disappointments. Most time we give more attention to our past failures, our inadequacies, we worry about the uncertainty of life, we worry about the future we have no control over, and the past we can never change. All these mental burdens affect our lives and the lives of those around us.
Worry might not be totally bad, if this mental process gives us the urge and zeal to deal with the problem at hand, unfortunately, worry does not give us the strength to face our problem head-on, it only weight us down. According to Stephan Harold, “There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem’’. The question however is are you worried or concerned? If you think you are falling into the abyss of worry, these are some of the steps you can take to help yourself.
- Acknowledge to yourself that you have a worry Problem: it is important to know that most people don’t know that they have a worrying problem, some feel that they are basically ruminating on the problem and fashioning out a solution to the problem through this medium, but they are in fact wracked on the sea of worry. Discovering that you are suffering from this problem is the first step to solving it.
“Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere” Erma Bombeck
- List out the Causes for your worry: Most time, we don’t understand why we worry, we just notice that we are drenched in the stench of worry. However, for you to understand the reason why you worry too much, you need to sit down and write down your fears and concerns in order of their priority. You also need to write down the possible implication of your fears and worry if they come to fruition. Ask yourself the worst that can come out of all these listed fears. At the end of the day, one will discover that our source of worry is superficial and non-existence.
“If you treat every situation as a life and death matter, you’ll die a lot of times.” Dean Smith
- Think about the Positives rather than the Negatives: Our problem as humans is that we are always conscious of the negatives rather than the positives, we create paper tigers in our mind to torment ourselves. Until we learn to embrace the positives in our lives and be grateful for them, we might not be able to undermine the negative aspects of our lives. Always remember to show gratitude for little things done to you. Do not despise the days of little beginnings. Always be appreciative to God and Man
“People get so in the habit of worry that if you save them from drowning and put them on a bank to dry in the sun with hot chocolate and muffins they wonder whether they are catching a cold.” John Jay Chapman
- Understand that you have no control over the Past, all you have is the Present: The Reality of Life is such that we have little control over both the past and the future. We don’t have the power to undo what has happened in the past, neither do we have the omnipotence to portend or to tit the future to our favour. However, we have a reasonable amount of influence over what happens at present. The past is the past, to worry for the disappointment of the past is like weeping for a dead horse. it is important we embrace the present, and to be optimistic about the future.
“Every tomorrow has two handles. We can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith.” – Henry Ward Beecher
- Always Spend Time doing what you love and with positive people: in most cases, we worry because we have all the time in the world to worry, our mind and body is just too idle because we have little to do. One important way to expel the worry virus from your mind is to get your hands busy doing things that you love. If you do not have a job, volunteer to be part of organizations that specialize in helping people. Do things that would keep your mind busy and creative. Also, surround yourselves with people with positive orientations, these people would build up your immune system against any invading worry thought.
“The reason why worry kills more people than work is that more people worry than work.”– Robert Frost
- Always have Faith in God: Faith in God is not just a cure to all form of worry situation, faith in God also gives an assurance that the future is secure. Our lives depend on the amount of faith we have, not just in ourselves, but also in God. Jesus’ teachings about worry are good enough for us to understand that we can achieve a thing through worry.
“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?…” (Matt 6:25 – 34).
In conclusion, worry is can never be a solution to our problem, it is actually the magnifying glasses that enlarge our problem. It is important we live our lives above the weight of worry, by embracing the positives in our lives and seeing failures as a series of events that molds our future successes.