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The Introverts Corner: The Ups and Downs Of Dating An Introvert

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Introverts are really complicated individuals, sometime we think we know them, other times, we just seemed to misconstrue their nature.

Sometimes, most people are skeptical about investing their love in introverted folk because they because their quiet disposition would cause the relationship to go sour in no time. The truth remains that loving an introvert is hard work, but a blissful hard work. It is not handwork because the introverts are hard to love, but because, if you are an extroverts you will find them hard to understand.

Unlike extroverts, introverts are not the talking type, neither do they enjoy going to events. But they understand some principle that makes their spouse wanted. They are most likely to understudy want their spouse want after their time with them. Here are the Pros and cons of dating an introverts

They are intelligent

Introverts have been seen to be very intelligent. Not because they have a higher and effective mental capacity, but because they are good at observing every reality they are interested in. They spend time alone to study, read and observe situations. They also take time to study the people they are into. With their study, they will be able to understand their spouse and know what they want and how they can get the best out of their relationship.

In addition to this, dating an introvert means that you will be able to share out of the wealth of knowledge introverts are

Kristen Droesch, a writer, said: “We might like our alone time, but that doesn’t mean we don’t love with passion, too. In fact, our precious alone time can make us better partners to the rest of you, once we’ve had time to recharge and be with our thoughts”

Faithful

Introverts are very loyal folks. Because they are comfortable keeping just a few friends, they tend to be very loyal to these set of people. In the case of the spouse, introverts can stick to one people that seemed to interest them. Unlike extroverts, who are drawn to different people and are likely to lose focus on the people they are in love with, Introvert, dedicate their time for that one person that makes them feel loved.

When they make a commitment to love you, they keep to this commitment. One unverified but, likely fact is that introverts find it difficult to cheat or forsake the people they love.

“Introverts treasure the close relationships they have stretched so much to make.” – Adam S. McHugh

They are passionate lovers:

To prove their love for a person, introverts can go to any mile. They also show their love passionately. They might likely express their passionate affection for a person through other means other than saying it. According to a blog post on www.powerofpositivity.com, “When they (Introverts) can’t think of anything to say, they offer kind gestures and affection to their partner, because as the saying goes, “actions speak louder than words.”

They ask for forgiveness easily

Introverts are humble. They are humble enough to say that they are sorry even they are not the cause of the problem. They ask for forgiveness promptly because it’s easy for them to apologise.

They are good listeners

The truth remains that love strives when the person you love is ready to listen to what you have to say. Introvert tend to be genuinely curious about the lives of their spouse. They listen to what their spouse has to say and express interest in the life of their spouse.

Michaela Chung, the author of The Irresistible Introvert: Harness The Power of Quiet Charisma in a Loud World.

“As someone who has gone on a lot of dates with both introverts and extroverts, I can honestly say that the most exceptional dates were with fellow introverts,” Chung said. “Instead of flitting from topic to topic or telling one long-winded story after the next, introverts slow down, look you in the eye and truly listen. Introverts draw you in by posing interesting questions and sharing their own unique perspectives.”

They find hard to express their feeling:

One thing Introverts are terrible at is expressing their feeling. They are most likely to love you from afar. One reason for this is that introverts find it hard to trust easily.

They find small talk difficult

If you like small talk, introverts are not the right set of people to want to share the flair with. By small talk, we mean shallow discussion about random things or events. Introverts get bore by this kind of discussion. But if you want a dip seated kind of discussion, introverts will readily engage you. Introverts will readily talk about topic they are extremely interested in.

They shun social events

If you are the Outgoing type, introverts will surely frustrate this flair. Not because they might prevent you from going to these social engagements but because they will not likely come along with you.

Introverts avoid social events because they tend to be drained by social interaction. They can only cope a small group of people they are very familiar with, not people they hardly know.

Introverts share Susan Cain’s opinion that “Love is essential, gregariousness is optional.

However, if you truly love your introvert partner, you will appreciate and understand his social perspective. This is because according to Rainer Maria Rilke “The highest form of love is to be the protector of another person’s solitude.”

They Find It Hard To Get Over a hurt

Introverts don’t easily get hurt in a relationship. They try as much as possible to overlook the shortcomings of their spouse. However, when they get hurt, they find it difficult to forgive the erring spouse.

There are two reasons why they find it difficult to forgive and let go of the hurt. The first is because they hardly know how to express their dislike or displeasure about some issue. Also they find it difficult to forgive because heartbreak has a long-lasting effect on them. This might even affect them in their next relationship

Easily caught in wrong relationships

Adam S. McHugh explained why introverts usually fall into wrong relations thus: “Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.” 

 

About Author

Joshua Oyenigbehin is an introvert who is passionate about Storytelling, writing, and teaching. He sees his imagination as an unsearchable world, more magical than a fairyland. He has written a novel and working on another

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